I recently read The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz, the author of the popular book, The Four Agreements. One of the things that really caught my attention was the negative impact that lies have on us. We are all familiar with lies that other people tell us. Perhaps they are just “white” lies designed to avoid hurting our feelings. Of course, the people in our lives who tell us those lies mean well. The sad part about this is that underlying those lies is a belief that we are somehow not to be trusted in the management of our own thoughts and lives. So we need protection. Then there are the lies that people tell us in anger. Many people still carry around the hurt of being told by a loved one that they will never amount to anything. But that is an opinion at best because no one lives in our head but us and while we may appear to be headed in the wrong direction we are free to choose to change course any time we want. The troubling thing about these lies is what happens if we choose to believe them.
When we start to believe the lies of others we are making a judgment about ourselves. At this point our ego is all too happy to jump in and lead the chorus. And this is precisely when we start lying to ourselves about who we are or what our life prospects are. We set up scenarios that play out to our detriment but at least we get to be right about the lies we are telling ourselves, totally losing sight of the fact that the lie we now hold as truth in ourselves may have simply started as the uninformed opinion of another person who does not really know us.
Whenever we tell ourselves something about ourselves that places artificial limits on our lives and possibilities we are lying to ourselves. Ironically, if someone tells us something that happened to another person and we pass it on to someone else with our own opinion about how the person it happened to somehow deserved it, that is called gossip. Yet we gossip about ourselves to ourselves all too often. Our ego cannot wait to judge us and declare us guilty, unworthy, undeserving and a bad person. And when we believe it we put our focus there and then wonder why the good we seek somehow does not come to us. We know from the Law of Attraction that like attracts like. So we cannot bring the good we seek into our lives if we don’t believe we are good enough to receive it.
When we talk about ego we are talking about our head, our brain, our intellect, which is where “knowledge” resides. Knowledge is belief in our heads. My friend Marilu Holmes likes to say, “Nothing I believe is true.” This is a reminder to not believe all of the lies which can seem like knowledge and truth in our heads. True knowing comes from the heart not the head. The real truth we hold is in our hearts. When we stay connected to our hearts determining what is true is innate and we can trust it. And lies no longer hold power over us.
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