Recently a dear friend pointed out to me that I have a lot of rules. I did not want to believe what I had just heard. But after some brief consideration over several days I realized that she was right. But then I realized something else. Rules do not allow us to live in the moment! (Note: the rules I am talking about here are not laws but rather rules that we consciously or subconsciously make up for ourselves to follow. They may be the direct result of a bad experience or the fear of a potential bad experience. They could be from our parents, teachers or almost anyone. Wherever they come from most of us probably have them at one time or another in our lives.)
As someone who is still learning to live in the moment and who wants to live in the moment that got my attention. Then I realized that rules are really judgments either about ourselves or others. But in the end we are really judging ourselves since we are only able to clearly see just one person’s journey on this earth from which to have any perspective at all to judge and that is our own life. Judging ourselves over rules that we ourselves made up does not seem like a very good use of our time or energy.
Rules do not allow us to live in the moment but it is those judgments especially directed at ourselves that can steal our joy and our fun. So starting today I have decided to break all my own rules as I find them in my life. And I have given that friend permission to point out my rules to me. So look out world!
Do you have rules that you have made up for yourself that really just hold you back and keep you from living the life you know you were meant to live? If so, I invite you to join me in breaking all the rules.
I invite you to leave a comment with one of your rules that you decided to break.
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